I’m not here to pass judgment on your choice in life. Whether you should be with someone is your decision and doesn’t matter to me in the least. I don’t care if your “other” is a complete total Bum, Crack Head, Lowlife who lives in mommy’s basement and has Cheeto stained fingers. Moving on and being with someone else is your call.
I am here to show you ways to get your ex back. It’s that simple and almost that easy to do once you know how. About the only people I can’t help are individuals whose “other” have died or find themselves separated by only one of them being incarcerated. That’s it; although I won’t recommend illegal activity such as kidnapping and holding people against their will or other enhanced techniques like weatherboarding. Not only is it illegal it’s really unnecessary. How to fix your relationship just becomes the techniques or tricks you employ to get your ex back and that depends on what stage of the relationship you happen to be in when you break up.
Stages of Relationships;
1. First met crazy in love. Like the name implies this is a very passionate idealized phase in a relationship. Good judgment can very easily give way to actions that are based on feelings that can be very detrimental. It’s not hard to be blinded to what your partner is really like. Physical and emotional attraction is usually the driving force behind actions.
2. Just half stupid. If in the crazy in love stage you would be considered a dim wit. Now you are only a half wit. Things begin to settle down and you realize how alike both you are. You both like ice cream. You like cherry and they like strawberry but hey they are both fruit.
3. We are not Siamese twins. The realization that you are different and those differences begin to settle in. You start to do things independent of each other and see the “other “as not so perfect. Matter of fact you start to recognize there are some things about them that you really dislike. They can be selfish, stubborn and a real idiot about things. You still love them but they aren’t perfect.
4. Now you are just bothering me. At this stage you begin to blame them for things that go wrong. Things that one party might not like about themselves are the fault of the “other”. It’s not uncommon to blame any difficulty that may arise in life as their fault. They are stupid, uneducated, not as attractive you initially thought. You question are they really good enough for me?
5. I’m me your you. Life is normal again. You are two independent human beings that complement each other. You have your differences but have found a mutual ground on which to accept them. Actually you both feed off each other as you share what the other lacks. If you need help the “other” is there and capable to be responsible and vice versa. You both have learned to fulfill each other’s emotional and physical needs. You are with each other because you choose to be.
These are the stages of all relationships. You can tweak the wording and apply them to any business or social interaction but all relationships pass through these stages. Problems and difficulties can arise in any of them. So why am I telling you this and what does it have to do with getting your ex back? I know psycho babble to the fifth degree, right? No, if you want to get your ex back or fix any relationship for that matter you need to understand two things. First the person you are dealing with and next, what stage of the relation you were in. Once you understand that, it not really difficult to get your ex back. It’s just a matter of applying some human nature techniques or tricks and viola you get what you want. But you need to be able to step back and honestly evaluate that other person and what stage you were in.
If your partner tells you they are “just tired of you” and want something different and you were in stage one “crazy in love” your response and actions are going to be totally different that if you were in the “I’m me your you” stage. This friend is where it all starts. If you want to get your ex back you need to understand this.
